Everyone in the fleet is a decent sort. Though this doesn't always mean everyone is right, nor does it mean anyone is perfect (outside of fashion sense, Goddess'lyness and Q'ness). When a Q is in-perfect it tends to be deliberate and un-thought out (since for a Q to be in-perfect she must stop thinking of others). Q's like to try everything, and human failings are especially played with.
Now, despite this, a Q at heart is always a Q. Any Q forgetting that is risking losing her grip on the continuum and that makes every Q edgy.
What I would like for this meeting, and all the founders need to be attending, so it will be rescheduled if important ones cannot be there (and recorded down for those who can't make it), is for:
- Everyone to put the past behind them: I realise this is a difficult ask, with many transgressions against fellow Q, but I also think that every Q will have their own point and be right in their ways. I feel if Q cling too hard to the wrongs of the past we will all become lost.
- Everyone to remember that we all once got along really well, like loving family:
We have been blessed as a fleet with a lot of really great members. Finding Q is hard and we have been very lucky to find so many generous and hard working Q. Many give selflessly, but they also expect that we are selfless in return and that we all benefit. - I want everyone to make their feelings and position clear from a personal perspective avoiding blame, attack or dragging up the issues everyone is putting behind them:
Keep in our minds, these are friends, family, loved ones. Expel from our minds the idea we have been wronged, that's not to say ignore how we feel about that wrong. Express how the injustice has made us feel without replaying the cause and we can work together to ensure their are rules in place which mean if the injustice repeats everyone is accountable and there are actions to be taken - I want us to each consider how we have had impact on every other Q and resolve quietly to change and prevent this:
If desired (and felt), apologise to people concerned without reference to why and those being apologised to do not ask why but accept the apology with an open heart. Keep in our minds the good moments we have share together and not the wrongs of the past. - Everyone will get a turn to express their feelings and why they are unhappy, upset or whatever it is and we will make up a set of rules to make sure people will not be feeling that way again (or something can be done).
No Q should ever have been expelled from the fleet. It was my fault that a Q was, due to me expressing a feeling which was ill considered. I was thinking that they may have wished for a different type of atmosphere, and wished to point out choices they may not have considered. Instead I felt someone feel unwelcome and unwanted and gave that impression accidently to others too.
I want us all to go back to, and remember, how it felt to be wanted here with us all. How we are different from those mortals warring and fighting over petty matters and unable to see how much real problems are being caused for the sake of something which might have been fixed with a change of view.
Written from the heart,
Serry-pie
